There is not one way survivors respond to trauma. It is not easy to tell someone you love that you have been assaulted, and many survivors remain unable, even years later, to tell those they love that they were violated out of shame and other emotions. Some, for fear of safety and lack of support, know they cannot tell their family. Yet there are other survivors who will tell those they love immediately and ask for support.
Therefore, our staff wanted to share with you some basic information, based on trauma informed research, our own experiences, and the experiences of the hundreds of survivors whom we have supported.
The Safe Campus Act would mandate that college administrations no longer be permitted to investigate claims of sexual assault within the college community, unless the accuser first filed an official report with the local police force. This legislation would be devastating to survivors everywhere, but particularly on a campus like mine where there are very few resources available to survivors outside of those provided by the college.
No one jumped out of a bush and grabbed me. I wasn’t stumbling through campus. “Your assault isn’t valid because you are queer. Obviously you weren’t asking for it. If he had known you didn’t want him, he wouldn’t have assaulted you.” Many of us in the queer community do not look like the stereotypical victim. Others do not even identify within the prescribed gender binary. Perpetrators of sexual assault don’t discriminate based on your hairstyle, your gender pronouns, or your orientation, but the apparent search for justice in the aftermath does.