About a month ago, EROC spoke with a man who encountered campus rape culture as the unintended recipient of a “date rape drug." He shared his story with us in the hopes that it could shed light on rape culture and sexual assault on college campuses.
“I began my freshman year of college in 2006 at a school in Upstate New York. I knew that the administration was aware of campus sexual assault. During my orientation, all of the male students were lectured on “no means no” and the severity of sexual assault. I, however, just days later, about the reality of predatory sexual violence in an unanticipated, personal way.
I had a friend from home who was a year older than me and a member of a fraternity with an off-campus house. In our first week of classes, he invited my roommates and me to his frat house for a rush week party. He told me I wasn’t obligated to rush for the fraternity -- but that the party was just an opportunity to hang out and drink for free. My friends and I took advantage of this and went to the party.
The party was a mixer with the sister sorority and its rush candidates. There was nothing unusual about the party: the fraternity provided kegs and cups.There weren’t any mixed drinks: until I heard a few of the brothers’ yell that they were going upstairs to make jungle juice. I cannot recall how I ended up with a cup of jungle juice but I can recall my friend running up to me telling me not to drink it after I had already taken several sips. I asked him why and he explained to be that the jungle juice was for the girls, because it was spiked with Nyquil. He warned me that I was probably going to get sick or pass out. After a few minutes he told me that we should leave the party and go to the local bar. I followed and in between walking from the frat house to the bar I began to feel different. I felt as though I was going to vomit, and I took a break on a park bench. My friend said that the best thing for me was to get back to my dorm room and sleep it off. He told me to walk with him to the bar and he would get me a cab. I remember making it to the bar and sitting on a couch in the lounge. Ten years later, I do not remember how long I was in the bar or how I made it into the cab or even my dorm room. Ten years later I do not know if any of the girls fell victim to the spiked jungle juice. But ten years later I remember that the jungle juice was “for the girls”, not a guy like me.”*
Sexual assault is NEVER the fault of the victim. Consent cannot be given when any party is incapacitated - this is true both if substances are used voluntarily or involuntarily introduced. We demand an end to these predatory acts. We call on universities to establish amnesty policies to encourage reporting without retribution. We ask for schools to adopt “affirmative consent” as the standard on their campuses so that students understand that only a conscious, communicative, enthusiastic, and continuous “YES” equals consent.
For more information on drug-facilitated sexual assault please visit RAINN.
For more information on how to counter rape culture or for policy recommendations for Fraternities and other social organizations, please visit our Take Action Portal.
*Men, too, are targets of drug-facilitated sexual assault.