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End Rape on Campus (EROC) is a survivor advocacy organization dedicated to ending sexual violence through survivor support, public education, and policy and legislative reform.

We provide free, direct assistance to all survivors of gender-based and sexual violence on campus interested in filing federal complaints, organizing for change, or drawing public attention to hold their schools accountable.

We have assisted hundreds of students at dozens of schools file Title IXClery Act, and other civil rights complaints to seek justice and reform.

Family Doesn't Always Have to Come First

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I realized I could not celebrate Father’s day. I had no ability to dance for him. I could not celebrate the countless fathers who have caused pain directly and indirectly to their children through sexual violence.

Family Doesn't Always Have to Come First

End Rape On Campus

In the midst of the #MeToo movement, there have been countless stories of people sharing their experiences with sexual violence. One of the hardest parts of hearing story after story is realizing the person accused is a friend, loved one, or just an acquaintance. In other words, it is difficult to grapple with the fact someone you thought you knew could commit such a crime.

When this happens, it is interesting to watch how people react. It is encouraging to see some believe survivors, and on the other end, disheartening to see others side with the accused and claim their friendship as justification. We shouldn’t believe survivors on a case by case basis even if we know the perpetrator—and it is likely we will.   

A large, and dangerous misconception, is that rapists are monsters hiding in dark alleys. In reality, 7 out of 10 rapes are committed by someone known to the victim. As such, we need to come to terms with the fact that perpetrators will often be people we love and care about. It is easy to hate an image of a faceless monster hurting someone in a dark alley. It gets harder for people to hate a friend, a brother, an aunt, their own child, or a neighbor, and the list could go on. While potentially difficult, it is crucial  to acknowledge perpetrators outside of their crime, if we fail to do so, we are only hiding behind our own denial and allowing them to escape accountability.

It can be a painful reality to learn that someone you knew could act or even think in such ways so, sometimes denial is just the easier way out. The first step should be believing survivors, regardless of personal feelings. We need to listen and learn what accountability and justice looks like for them. Accountability and justice don’t solely have to happen within the confines of the formal legal system. Survivors who do not report their assaults are just as valid in their experiences as those who do. Folks decide not to report for many reasons, in fact the majority don’t. Some fear being shamed and invalidated and have lost faith in the criminal justice system, especially those from communities that face large amounts of police brutality. When we hold our communities accountable, we help create space for survivors to seek justice in the ways they want and heal in whatever ways they need.

The language used in conversations surrounding sexual violence can often further enforce the reasons survivors stay silent. For example, survivors are often described as being an “alleged victim”, or they “claimed to be assaulted”. Using these phrases invalidate survivors and their stories. Journalists’ jobs are to be factual and unbiased in their work, but time and time again, we see further perpetuation of rape culture by telling us, through linguistic choices, to not believe survivors. However, research shows that false allegations of sexual assault to law enforcement are between 2-10%. Even with that low number, it has been found that law enforcement often mischaracterizes unfound claims as false claims, making the actual number of false reports much lower. If we can start holding people accountable on an individual level and believing survivors, then we can start to dismantle rape culture.

Brock Turner’s case illustrated how media coverage targets survivors and how easy it is for family and friends to live in denial. News articles failed to immediately identify him as someone who had committed sexual assault. Instead, headlines focused on his accomplishments by describing him as “All-American Swimmer”. (I want to point out there are also glaring racial differences between how news outlets cover assault cases when they involve people of color. Just take a look at the differences of photos and words that are used to describe the perpetrator—and this is only one of countless examples.) Turner’s family and community conflated achievement with being a “good kid” and continued to deny his guilt. This is not to take away from the pain his family was feeling, but rather to recognize the power of denial and the damage it has on survivors.

It is complicated to navigate how to support survivors and process the fact someone you knew was accused. Our culture tells us that predators are only strangers lurking in the dark and our institutions tell survivors to stay quiet. So when the assailant turns out to be a friend or loved one, people stop listening. We must find a way to hold our friends and loved ones accountable for their actions in order to create space for our institutions to change and for survivors to be heard, believed, and validated.


  PHOEBE SUVA  (pronouns: she/her/hers) is serving as EROC’s Summer Public Policy Fellow. She graduated with a B.S. in Government with a minor in Gender and Sexuality Studies from St. Lawrence University. During college she interned at the Human Rights Campaign in the Government Affairs Department, Senator Gillibrand’s Office (D-NY), and in the Women’s Initiative at the Center for American Progress. Most recently, Phoebe was the Programs and Operations Coordinator at the Women’s Information Network. Her identity as a queer women of color, and survivor, has driven Phoebe to examine the processes through which people form and understand their own identities; and how they are recognized by formalized institutions. Phoebe hopes through this fellowship she will help create a space in public policy that recognizes the idiosyncrasies of individual’s identities in mainstream national legislation.  You can reach phoebe at  phoebe@endrapeoncampus.org

PHOEBE SUVA (pronouns: she/her/hers) is serving as EROC’s Summer Public Policy Fellow. She graduated with a B.S. in Government with a minor in Gender and Sexuality Studies from St. Lawrence University. During college she interned at the Human Rights Campaign in the Government Affairs Department, Senator Gillibrand’s Office (D-NY), and in the Women’s Initiative at the Center for American Progress. Most recently, Phoebe was the Programs and Operations Coordinator at the Women’s Information Network. Her identity as a queer women of color, and survivor, has driven Phoebe to examine the processes through which people form and understand their own identities; and how they are recognized by formalized institutions. Phoebe hopes through this fellowship she will help create a space in public policy that recognizes the idiosyncrasies of individual’s identities in mainstream national legislation.

You can reach phoebe at phoebe@endrapeoncampus.org